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Power of being positive? We all have read thousands of interesting sayings under this head. Many are really inspiring too. But I have here a different take on this matter. Positive behavior does not always lead to positive outcomes for many reasons Its considered to be soft It is considered the way out for a […]
Self aggrandisement Often we see advice columns telling us to love ourselves, forgive ourselves; give ourselves praise and a treat…and stop demeaning or hating ourselves. I would like to point out the opposite things here. Do not love yourself too much, do not treat yourself to all the goodies and do not forgive yourself all […]
Raising children When we were children, there were a score of occasions on which we would laugh our guts out. Mother would laugh too along with us. We were just middle class large family who could hardly afford any personal play things. Still we played hard and enjoyed ourselves. Not one day did our parent […]
Perspective taking Psychology defines it as ‘the process by which an individual views a situation from another’s point-of-view’. Simply speaking, ’ putting oneself in the others shoes’ to judge any situation. We human beings are taught to take the point of view of others before jumping to conclusions on anything. Right from childhood, conflicts are […]
Decision making This is considered an important aspect of independence and power. If we have decision making power, that will enhance our status in our own eyes as well as the others. No doubt. Everyone therefore craves decision making power. Children envy parents for the power they hold on them Wives envy husbands for this […]
Expectations One perennial problem with us human beings is we have expectations; from life, from others and from ourselves. Expectations on life are not in our control; so we sigh and move on. Expectations from ourselves are truly convenient; we get inspired by something we see, experience and develop an expectation that we will do […]
When we want others to change “I am OK …you are not OK” Have you noticed the general trend of complaints that people have? Others are this or that and not meeting their expectations. This phenomenon is completely ingrained in our psyche and we constantly seek affirmation that we are okay and if something needs […]
The importance of negativity in life Yes. That’s right. I did say negativity is important. It can accomplish many things. Imagine a daily scenario where we wake up to no challenge, go about the day without any thought, complete it and end the day feeling a little let down and bored. If this continues for […]
Making adjustments This is a concept that has both serious as well as humorous connotations. Here I am addressing the serious aspect of making adjustments. In life we humans have to make scores of adjustments. Some of us do them willingly, others with some reservations, still others with good grace and a few hopping mad […]
Dysfunctional Thinking The human brain cannot stop thinking in its wakeful state. We think, think and think. From which the stream of consciousness concept has originated. When it is such an unstoppable activity of the brain, why don’t we humans be better than what we are? That’s the mystery. Some probable reasons Most of our […]