Power of being positive?
Power of being positive?
Power of being positive?
- July 31, 2018
- Posted by: MAYURI
- Category: Articles
Power of being positive?
We all have read thousands of interesting sayings under this head. Many are really inspiring too. But I have here a different take on this matter.
Positive behavior does not always lead to positive outcomes for many reasons
- Its considered to be soft
- It is considered the way out for a weakling
- It often goes unnoticed
- It does not produce immediate results
- It helps others ignore you
- It does not get results for you
- There are no rewards for being positive
- One can get trampled over
There is a saying that nice people end up last…because being nice helps others to ignore you. Examples are many. I am expressing some that I have experienced
- Everybody takes you for granted; work can be dumped on you knowing well that you will do it without expecting anything in return
- Subordinates, students can take advantage and give last priority to your work/assignments
- You can be made a scapegoat in a tricky situation, knowing full well that you will not retaliate
- You are expected to hang around when everyone is taking a break for some reason or the other
- You can be ignored when acknowledgements have to be presented for group work since you will not raise your voice
- You willingly step back if situation demands and others will take center stage
- One indirect message of displeasure from the bosses, you will break your back to rectify whatever needs to be rectified
- You work endlessly to repair damaged work so that your reputation/ institution’s reputation, your bosses reputation are not damaged
- On the personal front too, being positive has its pitfalls; you can become the proverbial punching bag receiving no sympathy/ empathy for all that goodness you are expressing
- By being positive all the time, you tend to camouflage your negative feelings; others seldom realize you need an outlet, express anger and hurt
- You take responsibility for everything in and around you trying to be positive and good, giving others a great chance to escape most of the responsibility
- Finally, nobody is going to thank you for being positive… they will simply take advantage of this trait in you
What to do, Stop being positive?
Here are some ideas
- It’s nice to be good, but kindly don’t overdo it, spreading it to all situations in your life
- Prioritize where you want to be completely positive and involved and where you need not be
- Learn to be assertive. Have you noticed something, positive people who practice it all the time are less often assertive or put their foot down on things
- Re evaluate your needs on positivity; do you want everyone to see you as a goody- good person all the time? Or would you not mind walking away from some of the situations/ responsibilities … let others think what they may
- Learn to express your negative emotions when it becomes necessary; it’s okay to express them
- Being kind, good and positive around certain negative persons is actually a bad idea since they can get away with the proverbial murder!
- So, it’s important to weigh ones situation carefully and get to be discriminating in selecting when to be absolutely good and when to exercise caution
- One must stop worrying about what impression we are creating … it is okay not to be seen as a positive person by some people and under certain circumstances.
This is not to discourage anybody from being positive…its only a perspective on what can go wrong by exercising positivity all the time and how one can view the matter from a different perspective.
Madam its a nice article. But many atimes when we try to be assertive we are considered to be rude and disobidient. I think its very tricky to manage positivity and to be assertive at the same time. Its really challenging.
Yes I strongly agree with u mam…it is not always fruitful by being too positive in life…it’s all our emotional intelligence which plays an important role in where we need to more positive and where we need show negativity and to whom and how much…
It is really a challenging task to introspect our own self as it is totally an abstract concept…
Writing an article by looking at your own experiences is an amazing task…very good article mam and all the suggestions are too practical and helpful…
Thank u mam for sharing such an informative
article..
Nice, explanation driven article. Many a times it is noticed that people talking ‘reality’ are considered negative which again in ‘reality’ they are not!!
Perfect analysis for being positive. Well written. maam. Its hundred percent true.
Gmgmadam. Literally when i was readg this article i cud identify myself fully and gota feeling that this is written for me. It is so close to my nature. I must admit that i hav failed being assertive to someone when situation demands.i cud nt doit though I wanted tobe. Being polite kind is inbuilt personality trait and iam not cmg out of it. As a result i am facing all the issues u hav listed in ur article madam. But it is high time i realised that it is humanly i.impossible to be poilte n kind always to evy one. Either in the office or at home. We need to draw a line between being positive and assertive. We are stuck in a image
and dnt like to change. But as u suggested it is ok to be unkind and assertive to negative people sometimes. Ur article gives an assurance and support that it is ok to retaliate and taking outlet of negative emotions. Thank u madam for shwng a way out.
Beautiful article and the positivity and assertive nature need to be practised in one’s own interest.As long as we are on the right path no need to care how others measure us .Atleast we should not suffer to please others which may slowly deplete our self confidence!!I fully agree with your views about the disadvantages of being positive which many would have experienced in day today life!Time to be assertive!!