What are we doing for our children?
What are we doing for our children?
What are we doing for our children?
- September 20, 2020
- Posted by: MAYURI
- Category: Articles
What are we doing for our children?
- Do we get them to listen quietly to music?
- Do we read them good stories?
- Do we talk to them quietly at least once in a day?
- Do we train them in reading habit?
- Do we explain to them why we are denying their request?
- Do we ask them what they would like to eat and make that?
- Do we appreciate their sense of humour?
- Do we apologise to our children when wrong?
- Do we ask them if they are tired?
- Do we watch them silently when they are engaged in some self activity?
- Do we avoid disturbing them often in their activities?
- Do we simply hold them close and let them cry it out?
- Do we accept their defence without criticism when it makes sense?
- Do we allow them to complete what they started out to say?
- Do we let them argue it out with each other and try to resolve their conflicts on their own?
- Do we tell them before hand what we expect from them in a social situation?
- Do we allow them to go berserk once in a while?
- Do we cuddle them for no reason at all?
- Do we spare them a scold when receiving a bad grade?
- Do we refrain from belittling and putting down our children?
- Do we give them the kind of praise that they understand?
- Do we spare specific time for them in a day, every day?
- Do we allow them to stay away from us if they so want for some time?
- Do we set time limits to their free play?
- Do we excuse transgressions from rules sometimes?
- Do we listen to them talk whatever they want to?
- Do we let their friends into home?
- Do we help them clean up their act?
- Do we help them with school work and not push them to tuitions?
- Do we talk to them about our culture and its significance?
- Do we celebrate festivities in traditional manner to give them an understanding of tradition?
- Do we include them in discussions where it is good for them to be?
- Do we let them understand our living circumstances so that they can contribute in their own way?
- Do we help them understand their strengths and weaknesses?
- Do we allow them to indulge in a favourite past time at least part of their time?
- Do we believe them when they explain things to us?
- Do we allow children to choose their education stream?
- Do we allow our children their choice of a profession?
- Do we take it in our stride when they choose their own life partner?
- Do we trust them to do well in life?
- Do we attempt to be honest with them in responding to critical issues of life?
- Do we attempt to be fair with all our children most of the time?
- Do we attempt to be gender fair with our children?
- Do we fight for our children’s rights in a joint household?
- Do you try to understand the specific personality traits of each of your children?
- Do we prioritize our children in our lives?
If we are doing even half of these, we are decent parents. Being honest in accepting where we are falling short is very critical…children suffer most in their parental homes as well as they gain most in their parental homes! An entire generation’s psychological wellness is dependent on their parents’ behaviour towards them. Parenting is the toughest job for which no professional training is possible. Each parent must navigate this awesome responsibility being guided by the basic personality traits of their children and their own presence of mind and emotional competence.
Absolutely true Mam..Parenting matters a lot for children’s after life..Very well written Mam
Excellent article. All should read- parents, to be parents, unmarried etc etc. Learn a lot from the article. Thank you for writing this article Mayuri. I have tried getting answers from my daughter. She is following them.
Too good Mayuri
. Excellent check list/eye opener for parents. Someone said… “when you are treating your children, you are actually treating your grandchildren” so beware!!
I’m still a young mom so haven’t gotten far with my kids but agree with all questions posed and if this checklist is followed, we will surely become great parents. A big thumbs up for an important, insightful article.
So well thought out and written. Should be the check list on every kitchen refrigerator in homes with kids
Yes. Very good check list of do’s. Earlier days parents used to navigate atleast to some extent and we certainly gained from that. Present day children are mostly pampered by parents for reason what so ever and that is making parents unable to guide or navigate once they grow. A must read article by all parents
Nice article Mayuri. Questions for self assesment
are very developed. This knowledge is very much essential for all mothers, especially young mothers.
Thank you all very much. Its always inspiring to have your comments.
Madam
Actually this is not a article. This can as well go as a scale to measure the parent – child relationship. Very much useful in categorising the sub dimensions to be studied while analysing parental behaviour.
Fantastically insightful. In the Montessori world, we have the concept of a prepared adult. I think it applies to parents in equal measure as it does to teachers. We are happy, elated, fearful, anticipating and expecting as parents when we set up the nursery to welcome a child. We need to spend infinitely more amount of time preparing ourselves emotionally and mentally and to imbibe this checklist once the child comes into our life.
True. Parenting does not come easily to all. Sociocultural conditions too play a very important role in how we parent our children. each half a decade makes tremendous difference to parenting
A fine collection of rhetorical questions on parenting. I was struck by your choice of the reward for parents who pass this quiz – a meaningful “decent parents” rather than the superfluous “successful parents”.
Influencers of parenting skills include our own parents, peers and the continuous societal cultural shifts affecting our children as they grow into adulthood. It’s guaranteed that a substantial portion of this list was different for our parents and likely will be very different for our children when they become parents. For instance, questions pertaining to their choice of education, career, partner or gender equality are already undergoing generational tectonic shifts.
It may be worthy to ask whether the title ought to be: What are we doing TO our children?
Hi ma’am,
It is a wonderful check list for parents. All the questions are insightful and easily relatable to each and every scenario we are going through. As a mother of two boys I am following most of these and also need to learn to follow the rest. Thank you so much Ma’am.
I am very glad to be connected with you through this platform. I am a student of Mrs.Neelarani and I was trained by her in remedial tutoring. I am grateful to her for introducing you to me. My mentor has introduced her mentor to me. It’s a wonderful feeling.