Arguments
Arguments
Arguments
- June 2, 2021
- Posted by: MAYURI
- Category: Articles
Arguments
One of the most proliferate human behaviours is to argue with anybody and everybody on everything under the sun! it’s the bane of our life…
Why we must not argue
- No point in arguing about others beliefs; that person is not going to change his beliefs
- People rationalize things according to their convenience…no amount of arguing will change that
- Most things in this world are not worth arguing about; they get resolved/or not/ lose their significance on their own
- Arguments do not resolve a conflict, ever
- Arguing for fun is okay, but it can dissolve into a serious dual…not good for social relationships
- One cannot argue with two things; obstinacy and stupidity…in this world these are in abundance!
- Arguments can lead to disastrous consequences; resigning jobs, divorcing, losing friends, cutting off relatives
- Arguments can expose us; our own stupidity, biases, pet peeves and ignorance can easily be recognized by others
- If the argument is on the social media, you will be trolled so much that you lose self esteem, peace of mind and sleep
- Arguing with the ego maniacs and narcissists is a total waste of time, energy and peace … and they are all around us!
If we must argue
- Don’t argue unnecessarily; just for the sake of having one
- Don’t argue at the wrong time of the day
- Don’t argue on serious life changing issues; these will need discussion not arguments
- Modulating voice while arguing is a tough call…but a lower tone, slower flow of words, well selected vocabulary…all go a long way to make it bearable
- Don’t argue endlessly with family members around
- Don’t rub it in… ‘I told you so’ is the worst thing you can say, though the first thing that comes to mind!
- Don’t repeat ideas; it’s frustrating to the other party
- Don’t lose temper while arguing
- Don’t use abusive language
- Don’t monopolize; listen to the others’ ideas too
- Don’t argue with children; you will lose face
- Don’t prolong; it’s not a losing matter to desist / step back first
- Don’t dig up previous events / incidents, it will only make you lose direction
- Don’t brood over the argument which could lead to another fruitless argument!
- Don’t resort to physical action; Keep it a verbal dual
- Don’t expect to have the last word in every argument; that might not be a win
- Don’t argue without proper knowledge on a matter; arm yourself with information first
- Don’t argue when you have no time/or a task has to be attended to immediately
- Don’t argue with your spouse …you might have to eat your words later!
- We dare not argue with our bosses too…haven’t seen one boss who took it in his stride!
- Don’t argue with your colleagues endlessly; you will lose their cooperation in future tasks
- Don’t argue with strangers on social media… Period!
- Don’t argue when you are drunk…you might lose balance and cause violence or become a victim of violence!
The best kind of arguments is that which happens between scholars and scientists, where they refute each others’ work with alternative scientific evidence. Since most of us are not that scholars or scientists …
You can argue with yourself…that might change you for the better!
Wonderful article mam. Arguments can never be made in haste. Usually they never end up in anything good. But sometimes when it comes to self respect, we need to tell the other person, ofcourse in a healthy manner but it many a times leads to arguments. So what I feel is, arguments can be handled well only when both are intending to argue without hurting the other person and are highly professional.
Nice article Ma’am….Most needed education in the current situation, lockdown has made families under one roof, we often come over many arguments, some arguments are constructive some are changing peoples perspective about others…What i learnt is self control is very important when we go for argument to avoid unnecessary things.
Good article on argument. Personal Ego only leads to argument in any situation whether it is family, office , or other wise. Once any one is having open mind to listen argument will not come.
Arguing for rituousness & for system improvement is always encouraged as one should not keep mum to wrong doings.
With fly , collegues ,etc use management principle of convince ,else confuse, Never argue.
Gud afternoon ma’am.. beautiful article..
I feel a moment of silence when required will end many of the ugly arguments.
I used to argue with my father on every issue..both of us used to enjoy.. miss those wonderful arguments…🙏🙏
Wonderful article Akka.. There is no pint in arguing with anybody as it leads to sum unhealthy, painful situation. Better to ignore things nd be happy with urself. That is mynsimple thinking..Hope you agree with it. Tq for a wonderful article😭
A good analytical article on argument. Simple topic yet useful one. Argument is an art not everyone posses this skill. It is a personality trait . Most of the times discussions not handled properly end up with arguments. These arguments usually drain out our personal resources time , energy and peace of mind. As you have mentioned not all arguments have fruitful outcomes.
Fentastic Akka.
Yes True.Arguments are not healthy any time .
Understanding way is always healthy .
Be Happy in All Times .✋
Good write-up. It is said that “Discussion is an exchange of knowledge but argument is an exchange of ignorance”!!
No arguments
Very good and interesting article, in childhood we used to involve ourselves in lots of argument but this habit is gradually vanishing I don’t like it.
Healthy discussion is better than argument