Men and their egos 

Here again is a very controversial topic. I know men will hate me for writing this. But I have to get this out of my thoughts.

Just like them, their egos have various shades.  A woman’s most important duty is to identify what her man’s ego wants and fulfil that if she wants any peace in her life.

Here are some of the ego satisfying needs of men that I have noticed. Ladies can you identify your man among these?

1. Wife must be a good home keeper; he and children may mess up, but she must clean up
2. She must smile at him all through the day, whenever they see each other, or else he will claim his day has been spoilt because of her sour expression
3. She must listen, he will talk, the other way round is only in the social media jokes that men crack
4. In an argument she must act dumb and let him win every time. This is really a very critical ego boost for him
5. She must apologise frequently, but not ask for an apology from him in a life time!
6. He wants compliance, no questions asked simply to be obeyed.
7. He can recall bad fights, poor actions, badly cooked food, and other such bloomers as often as he pleases, but she should never point out one single mistake of his ever
8. Never recall any nice thing you did or his ego will be hurt; often recall the nice things he did for you
9. His family must be loved and respected, he has the liberty to curse her family as frequently as he pleases
10. Dressing up, a big problem for them, don’t spend money on clothes, but appear well dressed around family and friends.
11. When children do well, they are his children, when they are naughty, they are her brats!
12. Never take any decisions, his ego will be hurt big time! Must allow him to take all decisions, and never criticize his decisions, they are the best in the world.
13. His bad moods are critically important, console him with food, sex, listening etc. don’t you dare have any bad moods, that’s not allowed.
14. His office is very very stressful, yours doesn’t count for anything
15. He is allowed to bring back the stress of office to home to be soothed, but you must leave office matters right there, be cheerful and attentive around family
16. Never bring office work home and spend half the night doing it. He has all the liberty to do so, and expects tea in the middle of the night.
17. Don’t show intelligent behaviour around him, he will be upset.
18. Don’t talk long on telephone with your friends or sisters, he becomes restless
19. Don’t sit around long, he will find a reason to make you get up very soon.
20. When he cooks always appreciate, he however has the liberty to criticise whatever you cook.
21. In your maternal family gathering, don’t neglect him, it’s a big blow to his ego.
22. Don’t buy anything on your own, tag him along, his ego will be hurt otherwise.
23. Inform everything you do, want to do, never mind if he does not share anything at all.
24. Your voice, intonation and words you use in communicating are terribly important, be soft, slow and choose words carefully, as if this is a verbal examination every time you speak; he cannot handle loud brutal messages, ego will get hurt.
25. Maintain silence around the house, when he is nursing a bad mood, don’t ask him to do anything at that time. But remember, you must do your duty even in the worst possible mood state.
26. He will use straight talk, but you must never use it. Be as convoluted as possible in getting the message across; he does not mind not understanding you rather than understand you clearly and completely.
27. He might ask you to diet, exercise and look good, but you must never ask him to do the same; men think they are fine looking, it is only women who must struggle to look good always.
28. Eating is another big thing; don’t stop him from eating, he loves it. If you do he may torture you by refusing to eat the next few meals.
29. When in bad moods, angry with you, he may go away from home without informing you. Don’t ask questions after he comes back, give coffee, food with a calm demeanour.
30. Don’t interrupt him when he is doing something, he cannot get back to it easily, multitasking is not his scene. He will get angry or hurt that you did not understand the importance of his work.
31. Never criticize him in front of any other person, his ego will be hurt, but he may constantly do that to you even with strangers around.
32. Give him a long rope for everything you expect him to do/ change, he cannot change easily and he does not like being rushed into anything
33. Do not go out and enjoy yourself without him; he does not relish the idea that others can make you happy, only he must have that privilege!

EXHAUSTING… isn’t it? But thankfully all men do not have all issues, and your man may have only some of them. It is also true that they may have milder forms of these penchants and not the virulent type. Your duty is to identify those and act accordingly. But a warming here, you will still get into trouble if new penchants keep cropping up every now and then. Bottom line? There is no peace for you in struggling to keep his ego peaceful. So, soldier on ladies.-Points out human psychological issues